empathy archive: 2009

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Working With Fatigue And/Or Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

PLEASE NOTE: This is not a quick fix, if you have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) and/or suffer with Fatigue – please, Consult with your Medical Practitioner or Health Professional. What works for one person may not work for another. I have shared my findings as what worked for me personally. I take no responsibility in what others do with my writings. My findings are based on intensive personal research. I am not stating that CFS and/or Fatigue are directly linked to being an empath. These are my personal observations only.

Working with Fatigue and/or Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Empaths tend to experience fatigue fluctuating throughout their lives that range from mild to extreme, from manageable to out of control. A survey of 53 empaths taken between August and October 2002 on the Universal Empath website found that 92% experienced some kind of fatigue related to being overwhelmed with the emotions of others. It can become almost crippling to one’s ability to flow in life. With the amount of energy that empaths are susceptible to in others, it is no surprise that their own levels of energy go up and down.

Fatigue in the general population occurs more often than many might think. Women are most noticeably recognized as sufferers of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and I have met so many who have experienced fatigue in varying degrees. Mothers give so much of themselves to raising their families that they often neglect taking care of themselves. Fathers, too, can be neglectful in eating and drinking water regularly on the job and overworking. It may be surprising to some that both men and women get CFS.

In discussing CFS with the women I have met, the common denominators stand out: Lack of a nutritional diet, inadequate water intake, lack of necessary vitamins and minerals, lack of adequate exercise and an inability to get a good night's sleep, amongst others. The empath's brain needs “food” to function to handle the incredible amounts of “energy” received and processed.

The need to take care of one’s health becomes paramount, and a great deal of dedication is required to pull oneself out of a dive into fatigue and up into vibrant health. For those who do know fatigue firsthand, they can appreciate the fact that the effort required to “get up” can be incredible, at times-- even seeming unbearable. However, it is possible. A change of diet and self-care, as well as improving the mindset, may help in many cases.

When I had CFS, I changed a few things in my personal health care. Not only did my energy improve, but also the changes were part and parcel in helping me manage the daily fatigue I experienced. I called on the professional help and guidance of my family doctor, and the support and understanding of my family, who walked with me all the way. Today, I am fatigued only on rare occasions.

Here are some of the changes that I made:

HERBS AND SUPPLEMENTS

Herbs and supplements improved mild depression, bolstered the immune system and improved overall health. Speak to your Local Health Store Professional and/or Medical Practitioner for what is best suited for you.

WATER

Adequate water is essential to continuing health. You can use bottled or fresh. I dropped the caffeine to two cups a day and replaced it with water. Start with a glass as soon as you wake. It fills you and gets your metabolism working. Drink, drink, drink, drink, and drink! Drink plenty of water EVERY day.

You may be interested in checking out this fascinating link about water and the human psyche:
Miraculous Messages from Water.

NUTRITION

A healthy eating plan is a cornerstone to maintaining your energy levels. Eat a balanced diet in consultation with a Nutritionist and/or your Medical Practitioner.

EXERCISE

Daily exercise restores the body’s energy. There are so many ways to exercise: walking, jogging, and/or a planned gym workout, sailing , Tai Chi or Yoga Classes…and more. Find what helps you feel energetic and refreshed--in consultation with your Medical Practitioner.

MEDITATION

For many empaths, meditation is an area that can be very beneficial, yet is one of the difficult to adopt because learning to "still the mind" can appear impossible. There are so many varieties of meditation available that it can take a concerted effort to find one that is suitable. Dedication, persistence and practicing this timeless art will produce excellent results. Check out your local guide for classes in Meditation, browse the Internet for what's available, and/or chat with friends who meditate to ask for tips.

REST & SLEEP

Incorporating a regular daily nap, day or night, replenishes the body. Being conscious of one's energy level throughout the day may help to find a pattern forming of when fatigue begins to set in. Many empaths, along with many others, tend to have a decrease of energy between mid afternoon and early evening. Learning to listen to the physical body, taking a quick nap, or using this time to meditate can help renew your energy levels. A restful period of 20-30 minutes can be effective, especially if one is consistent. When just beginning to encourage your ability to take naps, you may find an affirmation helpful. You can program the mind into accepting a short nap by using an affirmation such as "I sleep restfully for 30 minutes. When I awake, I am completely refreshed and my energy is fully replenished."

RESEARCH

Researching online and in books can be a tremendous benefit as everyone has unique needs.

SUPPORT

It is possible to take your research to your Medical Practitioner and/or Nutritionist and work in unison with them in developing a comprehensive plan for your self-care. A family doctor can keep track of your progress and advise you as you work for changes that alleviate the fatigue.

When I took control of the CFS, I was insistent on taking and doing the things I mentioned above for several months. Today, I listen to my body. There are clear physical signs that fatigue is rolling in. I rest when I am tired, do not wait until I am overtired, or push myself to extremes. Meditation daily helps me to fully relax my mind, body and soul, and helps to revitalize my energy. I find it is essential for me to be conscious of my diet and, most importantly, take action immediately to replenish my energy levels at the first sign of fatigue.

Copyright © 2002 Christel Broederlow
Edited Annie Bush M.A. 2002
Working With Fatigue And/Or Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
By Christel Broederlow
Edited Annie Bush M.A.

reports - sleep deprivation

PLEASE NOTE: If you suffer with insomnia or any form of sleep disorders – please, Consult with your Medical Practitioner or Health Professional. What works for one person may not work for another. I have shared my findings as what worked for me personally. These are my observations only. I take no responsibility in what others do with my writings. My findings are based on intensive personal research.

SLEEP DEPRIVATION

Mild to extreme insomnia is regularly experienced by empaths. The high degree of sensitivity of empaths to others' emotions, thoughts, and electromagnetic fields in general, as well as their own thought processes, can leave them unable to rest comfortably and fall asleep. The physical body requires sleep to restore itself. Without it the body tires, aches and desperately seeks an energetic re-fuelling.

Often empaths toss and turn from the moment they lie down and continue for hours on end into the night. Sleep deprivation is a fitful act that can bring an empath to tears through lack of much required renewal. In the act of sleeping we are replenishing our vitality through the sleeping and dream states. The less sleep, the more broken sleep habits, the less replenished we feel upon awakening. It is important to consult with your Health Professional with any sleeping concerns and also to ensure there are no other underlying problems.

SO WHAT IS A POSSIBLE CAUSE OF THIS SLEEP DEPRIVATION?

An empath may be subjected to a barrage of stimuli during both day and night and the mind attempts to process the excess information along with everyday events. An empath's mind can play over and over the day's activities, emotional interactions, conversations, TV programs, work commitments, studies, anything and everything regardless if the thoughts are trivial and/or of the utmost importance. The physical body is in a state of exhaustion and yet the mind is actively pursuing an Olympic performance--night after night, to the point where insomnia is now accepted, though reluctantly, as part of one's life.

Thinking can be demanding and draining, for this is not simply thoughts filling the mind. The thoughts are backed up with energy from emotions and together they are pushing and pulling on the entire mind body spirit. The need to still one's mind and to bring the thoughts into the '"quiet" becomes essential. The daily practice of meditation and affirmations can help encourage our ability to sleep on command.

HOW DOES ONE STILL THE MIND?

AFFIRMATIONS & MEDITATION

One method to help induce sleep is to use Positive Affirmations and Meditation. There are numerous kinds of meditation and it may take some time and effort to find the one most suitable. While some believe Affirmations and Meditation are best used just prior to sleeping, others find that the cumulative effect of meditating at any time daily will help quiet the mind.

Meditation teaches one to still the mind, to let the flow of thoughts bring one into a state of calm centeredness and peacefulness without thoughts and emotions being dominant.

Meditation is a dedicated practice best used daily. The more often one meditates the more natural and effortless it becomes. The results from meditation are profound and plentiful. If one is stressed, over-tired, anxious, weighted by constant thoughts and/or emotion, adopting meditation can produce significant changes and self-empowerment.

Being in control and focused with one's thoughts, quieting the mind, will help improve a regular sleep pattern as well as result in a replenished physical sense of well-being. Adopting and applying the technique of quieting the mind can also help in busy and/or stressful situations.

Your local paper will offer classes in varying meditation/energy practices: Yoga, Tai chi, Chi Gong, Vipassna, Transcendental Meditation, among others. For those who need discipline in meditating, joining a group is preferable. If you have strong self-discipline, purchasing meditation audios from the local health store and/or creating your own personal "sleep meditation" may be options.

OTHER HELPFUL HINTS

It may also be helpful to refrain from being especially active prior to sleep, which includes not going straight to bed after watching TV.

Limiting caffeine and sugar intake prior to sleep can also help quiet the body. These substances can have adverse affects and keep some people awake. Avoid drinking fluids immediately prior to sleep as this may disrupt one's sleeping pattern by awakening during the night to use the bathroom.

Due to the effects of electromagnetic fields, it may be preferable to not sleep with a computer and/or television in one's bedroom. Not only do these appliances have potentially harmful electronic magnetic fields (EMF), but they also convince the conscious mind that your room is a place to stay awake, rather than to sleep. Removing these from the bedroom is the best option.

Additionally, there has been research that indicates that sleeping under an electric blanket or with your head near an electric alarm clock subjects you to electromagnetic fields. Battery operated alarm clocks, or old fashioned wind-up alarm clocks have less EMF (Electronic Magnetic Field) output and are preferable.

Check that the wall immediately behind your bed does not have a main power socket. Moving the bed away from the wall with the main power socket, which often has a multitude of plugs running of it, may be helpful.

Steel and/or metal headboards are also known to have adverse affects for people with sleep disorders. As an empath, you may be sensitive to these objects.

Reading a book while lying in bed can be very relaxing for the mind and body.

Listening to meditative/relaxation music with no lyrics is often calming. Music with lyrics can trigger the conscious mind into thinking.

Copyright © 2002 Christel Broederlow
Edited Annie Bush M.A. 2002
SLEEP DEPRIVATION
By Christel Broederlow
Edited Annie Bush M. A.

reports - weather hypersensitivity

Please note: If you recognize any of these symptoms, please consult your Physician and/or Health Professional if you have any concerns. These are my personal observations and are not factual evidence linking weather hypersensitivity to being empathic. What may occur in one empath can be completely unseen in another. Circumstances vary from person to person, place to place. It is of note that A. Schienle in a 1998 article “Biological Effects of Very Low Frequency Atmospherics in Humans: a Review” in the Journal of Scientific Exploration indicated that a large percentage of the population is weather sensitive and unaware of the physiological effects.

It is not uncommon for empaths to experience some level of sensitivity to weather in one form or another. The type of sensitivity can vary from headaches/migraines, allergies to rheumatic pains in the joints, etc. Hence, there is the need to seek and pursue medical and/or professional advice and increase understanding in that regard.

The understanding I have personally gained in researching Weather Hypersensitivities has helped me tremendously. I have learned what causes my body to react to the weather changes and to appreciate how I will respond prior to, during and after each occurrence, as well as what methods I can use immediately in making it more bearable/tolerable and less painful.

The hypersensitivities I experience are not one-time occurrences. They are a regular day-to-day part of my life though extreme and unusual to most. In a nutshell, many empaths don’t experience to the degree that I do and vice versa. Common sense and your personal observations of yourself are of the utmost importance, as well as regular contact with your health professional.

WEATHER HYPERSENSITIVITY

From a very young age, I had a form of Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA) in the knees. As I became an adult, I would experience the pains in my elbows and, occasionally, in the wrists. I became adept at connecting this pain to weather/climatic changes. My ability to forecast weather came with an accuracy that never failed. In my growing awareness of RA effects on my physical body, I could also accurately distinguish what kinds of weather changes would occur. I came to be able to predict different kinds of weather: frosts, rain, the intensity of the rain, approaching storms, the velocity of storms, even accurately predicting the storm’s arrival over our house.

The RA in the knees was barely tolerable and I had tried various forms of medication over the years, along with other techniques, to help ease the pain. I found heated wheat packs somewhat comfortable and tolerable. Though they did not heal the RA completely, they were enough to take the edge off. At times, the RA would spread up the leg (without a doubt I could/can feel it traveling internally) and into the hip joint. This would cause the greatest of pain and make walking unbearably painful.

My family and I moved to Queensland five years ago. During this time I noticed a hypersensitivity to weather like never before. I could feel physically the climatic changes and approaching storms at a speed that would often take my breath away (literally speaking). The pressure would build up in my chest almost feeling like anxiety, yet different. At first, I thought it was just occasional. I started to record my weather predictions, along with the temperature for the day and humidity based on what I felt it to be.

I was accustomed by now to tuning in to the manner in which my physical body responded to the weather and recording weather readings of temperature, humidity, cloud formation, storm approaching, estimated time of arrival, etc. I would also support my findings by going outdoors and record what I could visually see, hear, smell, taste and at times touch.

My accuracy was "spot on" every time and this was not an act of random guessing. Ideal confirmation of my personal weather sensitivities would come through the actual Weather Report of the evening News. I would also make a habit of journaling this against my daily findings. When there was a shift in the weather felt by my physical body earlier in the day, the News Report would support my personal findings with their apologies to not being able to broadcast the actual changes more accurately.

In time, I came to forgive the inaccuracies sometimes reported in the media and trust my own body. My family quickly learned to take my word when I said, "A storm is approaching, time to batten down the hatches!"

One particular day I had a strong intuitive pull, yet the pull felt different from what I was accustomed to. Throughout the day, I would mention this to my husband. He too could feel “something in the air”. It was one of those moments that made you feel on edge--knowing something big was going to happen. It was a fine clear, sunny day. Around 1 p.m., I was standing in the lounge room looking out the window over the back yard. I went into a dazed state suddenly and a clear vision of our backyard being completely underwater appeared. I shrugged it off foolishly and didn’t even bother to mention it to my husband.

The feeling of “something in the air” intensified and within a couple of hours, the rains came heavily. Within five hours our backyard and house was being completely washed out. The storm drains just could not tolerate the deluge of rain. The night skies became as light as day with continuous lightening. A freak 1-in-100-years storm hit our area. We lost 95% of our belongings from that storm, though most importantly saved our lives! This event showed an increase, not only in my knowing actual physical weather patterns, but also in my psychically seeing them beforehand. I would listen in the future to such signs!

I have physical effects of fatigue, energy increase/decrease, nausea, RA, increased heart rate (a racing feeling), headaches, migraines, loss of appetite, irregular sleep patterns (sensing the weather when asleep and being awakened prior to weather changing over house)—all related to the weather.

Some people may consider moving to areas where the weather is steadier. That is not an option I choose in this present moment. However, the weather’s adverse effects on the RA, were part of our choice of moving from New Zealand’s (homeland) cold and extreme climate to Australia’s Queensland with the warmer, tropical one. The RA is less frequent here in Australia, although I am much more sensitive in other aspects now. Though I love the sunshine here, it is the winter period that is my favorite--sunny clear skies, and mild pleasant temperatures.

It is well documented the weather can physically and psychologically affect peoples emotions. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is another form of weather affecting humans, though it differs from my personal sensitivities. In New Zealand's winter period of 2002, there were 40 days of consistent rain. The News reported the overall gloomy feeling of the people in the areas most affected. SAD was most noticeable in the increased hospital visitations, varying degrees of depressive states and the wish for the rain to clear up. If you often feel depressed during the winter months, it is worthwhile looking into SAD and consulting your Health Professional.

As I research intently Weather (WS), Electronic (EHS/EMF) and Chemical (CHS) Hypersensitivities, I find a fine line connecting these for myself personally. This appears rather a broad and unrelated area, yet I have been able to record specific connections between these sensitivities or possible direct links. My studies continue.

For more researched documentation, please check out the links below.

Copyright (c) 2002 Christel Broederlow
Edited Annie Bush M.A. 2002
WEATHER HYPERSENSITIVITY
By Christel Broederlow
Edited Annie Bush M.A.
Electromagnetic Hypersensitivity
ARTICLES OF INTEREST
Chemical Hypersensitivity
Documented Emperical Evidence Of EHS
Weather and Health
The Environmental Medicine Foundation
What is Weather Sensitivity?

10 levels of empath

By Jerry Breen
General (1)
The feeling you get when walking into a room where the feeling(s) are 'so thick in here, you could cut it with a knife.' (Everyone has experienced this level of empathy, even those who claim to not being empath!)

Empath (1)
(a) They are hit with all sorts of feelings and emotions, but know that those emotions/feelings are not theirs. But have no idea where they are coming from SPECIFICALLY, and or are unable to identify those specifically.

(b) Over all 'static' feeling of emotions or are over-whelmed and consumed.
~ Do not know where it's coming from or why.
~ Generally in 4 people or greater groups or crowds.
~ The larger the 'group/crowd' the more 'over-whelmed' feeling one would get.
~ It is possible that some 'clinically depressed' people MIGHT fall into this category. Because the 'over all emotions' of others so overwhelm, that they avoid groups of any size, because it causes ‘depression’. (These are those where there is no 'clinical' or 'medical' reason that can be found.)

Empath (2)
~ Same as EMPATH (1a & b) BUT: They can identify the emotions of the above.. HAPPY, SAD, JOY, PAIN, etc. But are unable to focus on where specifically it is coming from except one-on-one, without obvious visual clues.

Empath (3)
~ Same as Empath (2) BUT: They can identify the emotions of the above and tell where they are coming from in small crowds, without the obvious visual clues.

Empath (4)
~ Same as Empath (3) BUT: In large crowds can focus on strong emotional out put from individuals, and tell generally where it it's coming from and focus and search it out.

Empath (5)
~ ALL THE ABOVE plus over great distances of people they love or know, and major events: earthquakes, bombings, celebrations, etc.

Empath (6)
~ ALL THE ABOVE, and be able to hone in and know WHY the feeling is there in general to slightly specific reason for the emotion.

Empath (7)
~ ALL THE ABOVE, and be able to detect if emotional or physical in nature, and why in rather specific detail.

Empath (8)
~ This is in level of 'Psi' abilities. All the above, and know without 'seeing', 'knowing' or observing by natural means... in very specific detail.

Empath (9)
~ All the above, and is able to focus and "scan" the person for detail or information physically, emotionally, etc. And give very specific information / detail.

Empath (10)
~ ALL the above, with great control, this person also branches into PSI abilities and is able to control to various levels thought / body and other functions in another person. Depending on the level of PSI, which is another, and deeper study and research.

Permission has been given to Christel to publish this. April 2002. Jerry J. Breen 10051954 ©
Copyright © 2002 Jerry J. Breen
These levels are NOT hard and fast levels. They are simply a break down of progression that I noticed over the years talking with various people. It is all together possible that you will find your self even between levels. It is VERY strongly possible with close friends/family/mates; you will find your self on the upper 'levels' with them and the lower 'levels' with everyone else... and even a 10 with one or two VERY CLOSE people.

Also in given situations, like women's monthly cycles, (and guys too), or when there is very strong emotional situations around, or when sick or very excited, your 'level' will be all over the place, literally and technically.

The point is, this is not a 'growth' gage of achievement or "arrival", "WOW, I'm finally a 10!!" .... bzzt, wrong! .... This is not an 'arrival' chart.

Also as with any physical abilities, be it music, art, math, cleaning house, etc... There are very likely limitations as to where you will grow and how you will develop.

The key here is to understand who you are, where you are and come to a level of comfort, control and focus AND ACCEPTANCE of your empathic nature. The Levels are simply 'focal points of understanding' not Focal Points of ARRIVAL. Hope this helps some.

Permission has been given to Christel to publish this. April 2002. Jerry J. Breen, 10051954 ©
Copyright © 2002 Jerry J. Breen

Guide to Understanding the 10 Levels of Empath.
10 Levels of Empath
Important Note
Empath (10)
~ >ALL< the above, with great control. This person also branches into PSI abilities and is able to control to various levels thought / body and other functions in another person, Depending on the level of PSI, which is another and deeper study and research.

1st) These are not levels of Achievements. I.e. "Wow, look at me I'm finally Level 10!"

I was taken back the other night in a private IM of a gentleman thanking me so much for the post of the 10 Levels. That it was what he needed to find out where he was, (which he very straightforwardly told me he was a Level 10.)

I thought this was curious. So I stated it is very likely you are a Level 10 with your wife, but I would question if you are a consistent Level 10 with more than a couple of people at best. "Oh, no I am a very strong Level 10", he protested. "Fine I stated, then what am I feeling at the moment?" which was a very fair question to ask a Level 10. "Well, I don't know you! You are not here for me to meet you!" with shock that I would ask that question.

"Then", I stated, "you do not understand what the Levels really mean. Because if you did you would know exactly what I was feeling and why, without the need for me to be there".

He was upset that I would challenge his claim. I tried to explain to him that since I wrote those 10 Level's I knew exactly what I meant and thought that it was as clear as I could make them in the format presented, a simple listing.

I also stated that these were not meant as achievement goals. Also, that you will find with spouses, twins, siblings, best friends, you will be probably on the slightly upper end, but with the rest of the world you will be on the lower side of the Levels. That this is perfectly `normal' and `natural'.

He slowly began to see what I was talking about. He also told me that these levels in certain groups were being touted as Goals and such. That saddened me. But human nature being what it is, was not surprised.

Also another case in point, a similar friend also touted to me about being a LEVEL 10 Empath, as well. That this was their natural Level all the time with everyone. I was a little shocked by this, in that I was aware that someone in their home was going through some rather serious emotional trauma and was working hard to keep this from them. (The rest of their world knew this person was VERY UPSET.) They did finally find out, by a secondary source.

I calmly responded to them, you are not a Level 10, because if you were, you would have known about the upset going on in your own home, without it coming via a secondary source.

The fact that this person claimed to be empath was rather a surprise, because they didn't even pick up on the normal 5 senses of clues, let alone being in the same rooms at time with this person and never once felt, sensed or picked up on the emotional trauma going on. Yes there was a serious emotional issue going on that I was well aware of at the time, in this person.

For them to claim a LEVEL 10 Empath "status" as their normal state was a statement of nothing more then `ego'. They were clueless visually, empathically and other wise. Sorry this discredited the Level 10 "status".

Status being the point of this post: The Levels are NOT STATUS `points', `goals' or otherwise, they are simply a breaking point to help people understand who they are and where they MIGHT be. (Be careful where you put yourself, you just might be called on it!) And your STATUS may come crashing down!

Please folks use the 10 Level posts in the spirit and intent they were meant to be. Please, let's curb the human tendency to `ego' them and be level with them, please?

Respectfully: Jerry

Permission has been give to Christel to publish this. April 2002.Jerry J. Breen 10051954 ©
Copyright © 2002 Jerry J. Breen
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empaths - what's possible

By Annie Bush M.A. & Christel Broederlow
It's possible and not unlikely for empaths to experience one or more of the following:

Feel the emotions [depression (including self-destructive feelings)*, anger, joy, elation, etc.] of another person in their bodies and know their origin

Feel the emotions [depression (including self-destructive feelings)*, anger, joy, elation, etc.] of another person in their bodies and realize they belong to another person, but not know the origin

Feel the emotions [depression, (including self-destructive feelings)*, anger, joy, elation, etc.] of another person in their bodies and believe the feelings are their own

*If you feel depressed or self-destructive, please consult your physician or mental health practitioner.

Feel the physical pain, illness, and/or disease of another momentarily and/or exhibit their symptoms and know their origin

Feel the physical pain, illness, and/or disease of another momentarily and/or exhibit their symptoms and realize it belongs to another, but not know the origin

Feel the physical pain, illness, and/or disease of another momentarily and/or exhibit their symptoms and believe the feelings are their own

Feel the emotional trauma of another person and believe the trauma is their own

Feel the emotional trauma of another person and believe the feelings are their own

Feel the emotions of others in neighboring houses and know their origin

Feel the emotions of others in neighboring houses and realize they belong to another, but not know the origin

Feeling the emotions of others in neighboring houses and believe the feelings are their own

Feel the emotions of spirits and know their origin (medium capabilities)

Feel the emotions of spirits and realize the emotions are not their own but not know the origin

Feel the emotions of spirits and believe the feelings are their own

Be from mildly affected by the emotions of others, with little consequence, to intensely affected by the emotions of others to the point that they become physically exhausted, and/or physically pained

Be so intensely affected by the emotions of others that they seek relief in avoiding being in the presence of people (such as crowds) or individuals with intense feelings

Feel the emotions and/or traumas of the author of a written piece, such as e-mail, having to do with what is written and/or having to do with the author's life in general

Be easily triggered emotionally by other people's emotions, music, or the media, such as TV, videos or movies, so that one's past memory of a like circumstances is brought vividly to the surface

Be sensitive to the well-being and needs of animals

Be sensitive to nature, the earth and the environment and actively participate in their well-being

Touch anything of substance and sense/know the history of that item

Find their abilities are enhanced by physical touch or the act of focus (including trance, hypnosis or intentional focus on a person)

Self-medicate with drugs, alcohol, food or other substances to dull or numb out the effects of having empath abilities because of difficulty coping with a world that is most often unacknowledged and unaccepted

Be easily persuaded or influenced by another's emotions including those in advertisement or political agendas

Be easily persuaded or influenced by someone who has understanding and control of emotions and the desire the manipulate the empath's emotions

Be easily persuaded or influenced to do things that they ordinarily would not do

Consciously send positive and/or negative emotions to a person or a room of persons

Experience global emotions to tragedies/trauma in a profound manner yet not be an original participant of the tragedy or trauma

Experience pain, overwhelming emotion, or another's death prior to an actual event occurring. Pain and overwhelming emotion disperses the instant they occur.

**Being near by or distant to the source of all of the above may not be a factor in the sensitivity

Have difficulty with relationships due to others being uncomfortable with an empath's abilities

Have difficulty maintaining a relationship with others due to not comprehending the empathic experience occurring

Have difficulty with relationships due to the empath's knowing the hidden aspects of another's behavior or character

Be sensitive to participating in groups (small or large) and/or speaking in public

Be sensitive to sources of electricity so that it affects their physical and mental health

Be sensitive to changes in weather so that it affects their physical and mental health

Be sensitive to highly sensitive to light, sound, smell, taste and texture--some (particularly light and sound) to the degree it affects their sense of well being.

Be sensitive to man-made chemical substances in one's environment so that it affects their physical and/or mental health

Likely to have other abilities such as telepathy, clairvoyance, clairaudience, or clairsentience to varying degrees

Because empaths are very likely to have telepathic abilities (the ability to send and receive information mind to mind), the following are possible and not unlikely:

Know the thoughts of another person or persons and know their origin

Know the thoughts of another person or persons and realize the thoughts are not their own, but not know the origin

Know and/or speak the thoughts of another person or persons and believe they are their own

Be pulled into/influenced by another person's thoughts with little to no control to alter the circumstance-a form of mind control

Be pulled into/influenced by another person's thoughts with an ability to detach from those thoughts

Send thoughts to another person for positive or negative effects, including manipulating their behavior in ways aligned or not aligned with their views, desires, morals or beliefs

Have the ability to move into another's dreams, along with the ability to know and affect the contents of the dream

Be pulled into the dream of another without conscious choice to do so

Be affected by another's inability to maintain focus (when one generally can) to the extent that one's focus is lost

Find that the method in which they think (analytical, logical, intuitive) changes when they communicate with a person with a different method of thinking, thus aligning with that person

Find that they easily adopt or are influenced by philosophies of another even when in opposition to their original philosophy

**Being near by or distant to the source of all of the above may not be a factor in the sensitivity

Copyright (c) 2002 Annie Bush M.A. Christel Broederlow
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EMPATHS - WHAT'S POSSIBLE
Annie Bush is an empath and has a Masters Degree in Body-Oriented Counseling/Psychology.
Christel Broederlow is a natural born empath Researcher, Webmaster & Author of Empathy.

reports - the importance of health, healing & cleansing

First of, it is important for you to know how you feel and what feelings/emotions are within you prior to doing any healing work. A read-up on emotions if one has not already, may help to verify where one is at, with self. How well do you know yourself? It is a challenge at the best of times for healers/empath’s to work with other's and not pick up or become emotionally attached to another, however it is possible.

Ok, what is it you do, when for instance your hands are dirty? Yes, simply clean them with water *smiles*, and I do NOT say this in a condescending manner whatsoever, the most commonly used ways are often the most overlooked
because they appear too simple.

This IS indeed one of the easiest ways to cleanse your room used for therapy. If you have the chance to do this daily, or at least once a week, (and or have a cleaner come in, specify the following) you will notice a significant difference in the room. (The more often this can be done, the more effective the results).

Washing down the walls with an easy cleaner (spray for example) and wiping off, using fresh clean water, and changing the water, as it gets murky. It is not just dirt that the spray and cloth are wiping off! Energy comes in all forms. Have the ceiling, windows, doors done as often as possibly can be.

Furniture is also important. Keep to a minimal, less clutter; clients have enough stored internally there. Keep books & objects to a minimal view, they are distracting the client and taking away their energy to another focal point. And if possible if pictures are used to decorate the room, keep them neutral, sea/scenic/forest/flower/sun. Pictures that offer a sense of calm.

Have furniture cleaned regularly, if using a cloth material for seating, consider running a vacuum over it often, (don’t forget to regularly change the vacuum bag with a clean one and discard contents OUTSIDE of the room *smiles*), and or replacing cloth furniture with a leather/vinyl type that can be wiped over (with suitable product) after each client leaves.

If by chance you draw curtains, close windows (keep out noise) etc, when you have a client in the room, open the curtains wide up and the windows to allow a flow of natural light and air to penetrate the room, this also helps in cleaning out. A continuously dark room 'holds' the energy of clients to it.

A reputable Feng Shui Consultant can also advise you (for a fee), though well and truly worth it also. Otherwise get some good books from the Local Library and read up, ‘Feng Shui for the Business’. How to place furniture and objects etc in a room for the best flow on? What colour schemes to use for harmony? Obviously you want to flow with your clients in the most harmonious way to achieve results effectively.

Cleansing does not have to be difficult, keep it simple, keep it up and the results you seek will be achieved. If you are able at the end of the day, light an oil burner with a 'light' sense, nothing too potent, to also add a subtle yet pleasant aroma to the room. Do this before you call it a day, and remember to put the candle out before you leave! *gosh*, don’t forget to blow out the candle!

Overnight the aroma will settle in the air and be gentle for the new day. Visit a local Aromatherapist and Or Health Store and discuss the desired affect you wish to achieve and they can advise you on the most suitable oil to burn.

For example; gentle on the nose, pleasant, scent not foreign to most.
Calming, relaxing, soothing.
Allowing clarity of mind, ability to express well.
Have natural cleansing properties.
Used in Therapeutic Room

These kinds of suggestions I actually apply to my life regularly, if say I move into a house, I always go through and clean it top to bottom, inside and out, and I can sense the immediate 'change of energy' in doing so. It works wonders. *smiles*.

For healers, consultants, therapists etc, that ‘give out’ a lot of energy, replenishing such is vitally important. One simple method is to drink plenty of water. Other than the obvious fact our physical bodies need lots of water and that it is ‘good for us’. For empath’s it is even more vital!!! A dear friend of mine continually reminds me to ‘drink more water Christel!’ *winks*. AND eat more regularly.

I have to admit I fell flat on both of the above. A terribly inappropriate eating pattern and lack of water intake sure had me feel more than my fair share. Yet I find that when I am out in public, I have an ‘inbuilt’ sensor that alerts me to eating and drinking! That IS empathy telling me first-hand, that I need the physical resources to keep me flowing more readily.

When I am in the comfort of my own home, and online, I tend to ignore such signs, and feel others more so. Times where I literally had to get up and go ‘crash’ into bed, totally exhausted, because the energetic exchange was one that I couldn’t contend with. Ignoring the fact my physical body needed water and food, left me energy less!

So drink plenty water and eat regularly. We have seen, heard and know of the stories where consultants, therapists, specialists etc are run off there feet with work, and don’t have the time to do so. Well enough! Make the time, and see the results *smiles*.

Taking ones lunch/tea-breaks outdoors is also highly effective. Finding a garden close by, a grass area, a tree to sit under, a stream etc, (getting in touch with nature) is well and truly a ‘life-line’ for many empath’s. The energy exchange from nature to self, self to nature is uplifting and replenishing. The ‘atmosphere’ being neutralistic, has one going back to work with a ‘skip in ones beat’. If one has the opportunity to ‘kick ones shoes off’, and feel the coolness of the grass or water – ahh how delightful.

As a consultant etc, the colour of clothes one wears is also depictive of your ‘moods’ etc, and or can pretty much shape your day. What do colours mean? Can the colour of my cloths really alter my day, my emotions etc? Can your moods alter your day?!

Yes! Learning about colours is not tied to holistic, metaphysical, spiritual alone. It is very much across the broad spectrum. Artists have long known the colours used not only reflect the intended picture, but also the ‘tale’ behind the brush! They know what colours can draw you in, to what kind of ‘mood’ they want to depict.

Designers and decorators know what colours can and will create, what kind of impact, what attracts and detracts, what brings harmony, what deflects it. What is soothing, what is appealing, what is sensual, too what is a clash of colours?

How many babies’ nurseries are painted black? How many hospital rooms are painted bright red? How many Doctors coats are purple with yellow polka dots? When did you last see a Policeman wearing an orange suit, green shoes and striped pink cap? Can you imagine the empathic response?!

The colours can make a difference to how we flow with self and others.

Copyright © 2002 Christel Broederlow
The Importance of Health, Healing & Cleansing for Empaths & Professional Consultants
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reports - affirmations

1. I am the unlimited, multidimensional consciousness of God All That Is, the creative energy of infinite realities. I have no boundaries, divisions or limitations. Because I am, I know; because I know, I can; because I can, I do.

2. I am the unlimited, multidimensional consciousness of God All That Is, the creative energy of the universe. I am the creative energy of sun, moon and stars; of wind, rain and tide; of Earth and all it's inhabitants. I have inherent purpose, value and meaning beyond human definition or understanding.

3. I am that I am, being is its own justification. Being my self naturally fulfils all of my obligations, duties or responsibilities. I don’t have to justify my existence or prove my worth in any way, because I am.

4. I am unlimited, multidimensional consciousness manifesting in human form. I have innate integrity. I love my self freely, fully and unconditionally.

5. I am unlimited, multidimensional consciousness manifesting value fulfilment. I am manifesting value fulfilment for God All That Is, my self and every other manifest energy being. I love, honor and trust my Self.

6. Every human is a manifest focal point of God All That Is. Every human is where it chooses to be, learning what it chooses to learn; in it's own way for its own reasons. There are no victims in manifest reality.

7. There are no divisions between aspects of my being. There is no distance between my outer self and my inner self. Outer self is inner self with a human face.

8. Being in manifest reality is joyful play for energy beings. Joyful play releases all of my abilities, accomplishes all of my purposes and fulfils all of my responsibilities. My only responsibility is to manifest the joy of my being.

9. Past, present and future are delightful illusions. Each moment point is the centre of infinite pasts and infinite futures. Each moment I can create any past or future reality that I choose.

10. Passing time is an illusion. There is only an infinitely creative Now. Each moment point has no past, no history and no karma, only endless opportunity.

11. Nothing that I do, say, think, feel or believe is ever judged and condemned. There is no god, no judgemental morality and no ideal self that I have to live up to. I am free to play with my beliefs, and manifest my personal reality, without moralistic judgement or divine condemnation.

12. I am surrounded and suffused with the unlimited, unconditional love of God All That Is. I have never been right, I have never been wrong, I have never been judged and found wanting. I have always been learning, growing and developing within the unlimited, unconditional love of God All That Is.

13. I create my reality and the present moment is my point of power. No aspect of manifest reality is distant or apart from me. I am creating form, space, time and action in infinite realities.

14. I am surrounded and suffused with the unlimited, unconditional grace and abundance of God All That Is. I am blessed because I am! I deserve grace and abundance in any form and in any amount because I am!

15. I am manifesting unlimited, unconditional grace and abundance as form, space, time and action now. There is no effort in manifestation. I can simply, easily and naturally manifest any event that I choose.

16. Every human is a manifestation of the unlimited, multidimensional consciousness of God All That Is. Every human is manifesting to experience the power of thought and the joy of creativity. Every manifest energy being is worthy of my respect.

17. I am unlimited, multidimensional consciousness independent of manifest reality. It is simple, easy and natural to leave my manifest body and this manifest reality and return at will.

18. I am surrounded and suffused with the unlimited, unconditional love of God All That Is. I am in a reality of peace, love and harmony. I am safe, I have always been safe, I always will be safe.

Thank You dearly Garret (((((Waves)))))) for sharing these beautiful Affirmations, they are deeply appreciated *smiles*.
By Garret Thorne
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reports - stepping back

Empathy and recognising when to step back to gain perspective - to be IN empathy.

A tense, heated, uncomfortable confrontation of words, emotions arising... A moment where words to part could cut the air... when ones spouse or loved one is being staunch in there ways, defiant, dis-believing, dis-crediting, over-empowering, disempower, critical, judgmental, infuriating, cynical, debating... Several choices stand for offering here...

1. Pick-up all there emotions, place into a blender, mix well for several minutes and drink-up, then regurgitate all contents and splatter straight back to hence it came! Not looking good, in fact, now looking like a disaster zone!

2. Storm out the door, kicking over *ouch* a few objects on the way, slap the letter box for just standing there, hisssss at the cat, jump in the car, smack the steering wheel for getting in the way of the keys, start the car with HEAVY foot, plough around the corner as though corner does not exist...!

3. Spit, hiss, kick, scream, and pull hair, cry, jump, run, spit, hiss, and kick...!

OR

How to be IN empathy?

In the moment OF (any or more of the above first-mentioned)... STOP, deep breath in, gently and calmly let it out, slowly, hand on tummy, feel movement... don’t respond YET... BREATHHHHHH, nice and gently again... tune-in to self, listen, what do you feel, hear inside self? Is this your emotions/thoughts? How did you feel immediately prior too? Calm relaxed, content? Is this you - really? If you felt irate prior too, could this 'confrontation' with another only be fuelling your fire? STOP - STEP BACK - ASSESS.

Whomever it IS, does not matter, what matters is action... what you choose to do next can make it or break it... to be IN empathy in any such moment, is to step back and assess self, then put yourself now in the other persons situation, where are they coming from, do they understand what you do? (Do you understand what you do?)... Are you helping each other, or fuelling each other, do you feel what they feel, (don’t be overly concerned if they feel what you feel), assess this objectively, (independently of perception, emotion, personal bias).

Step back, breath, un-attach your emotions/thoughts to the 'ache', (to them) and see through their eyes, feel through their emotions, understanding, experiences, through their day, through their thoughts, see it all, as though you are in their shoes… breath again, in doing so, find no reason to continue argumentively etc, and tame the fire by doing this.

It takes a conscious effort initially to 'put yourself in another persons shoes', though with practice it will begin to transform any relationship into one that is continuously flowing in a sense that brings peace and awareness of each other. Learn to realise what another feels/thinks, and step back in the moment. Creating a calm understanding of what the other is experiencing.

Trying to get our point across, all to often mean’s if we aren’t, our frustrations are a sign we are moving out of empathy. When we truly are empathic with another, we flow harmoniously in self, together, resonating, no need to stress, fret, feel as though we are ignored, when what truly matters is that in doing so we aren’t ignoring self and those we love, by being able, given willing, to place ourselves in their shoes or even better to understand where we are coming from in self, and accept self without need to prove a point that is obviously going ‘no-where’, that in such explanation out aloud (if necessary) it is done as though one truly is talking SELF through it.

Looking at self through a mirror, is the reflection seen, one that enables self to step back, observe, be objective, then embrace with harmony of understanding to another is also doing so unto self. To self? To be IN empathy is to flow with self, and accept another is where they’re at, because we accept where we are.

If we don’t like something in another, we can ask self, what would it be like to be this person, what life experiences has brought them here? Its as though to be IN empathy, one is looking in through a window and seeing things without participating directly, rather viewing from a different angle, all the goings on. Some consider this to watching a movie, appreciating the script, the directing, the acting, the plot unfold without actually being actively involved, viewing objectively and getting a broader picture, understanding in doing so.

The next time (complacency will teach a plenty ) such a situation (or lesson) arises… try and apply, learn and discern…

Stop - Breath
Step Back - Breath
Assess – Self
Step In – The others shoes
Breath IN Empathy.

Or in Short. Christel’s 3 Principal Keys to Empathy

STOP DROP & ROLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Copyright © 2002 Christel Broederlow
STEPPING BACK – EMPATHY
By Christel Broederlow
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PLEASANTVILLE - 3 PRINCIPALS
By Christel Broederlow

part III

Part III
The Empath Report 101
By Christel Broederlow

Is it really that important to have self-determined ethics and morals in regards to one's abilities? Yes, I feel deeply so. Those who do understand to a degree, but fail to have any ethics and/or morals in place, are hurtful to themselves and/or others. When anyone uses an ability to intentionally harm or manipulate another, his/her actions reveal the kind of person he/she truly is.

The ethics and morals involved in living with empathic senses depend upon the individual and an awareness of how the empath uses these abilities. That awareness must be continual. As empaths learn more and apply it to their lives, their empathic skills will be refined so that they are constantly aware of both their empathic nature and others.

I have met many people with empathy, telepathy and varying other psychic abilities. Thankfully, the most people are responsible for their abilities and are working diligently to understand them with a genuine interest.

I have also met a few who have no regards whatsoever as to how they use their abilities. They exhibit a lack of concern about hurting another because they think it is a game. In this game, these few want to “play” with friends to see what happens. They are likely to be surprised when something very real occurs. They then find that they have no clue how to undo what they have intentionally and thoughtlessly done!

For those few who intentionally want to have fun with their abilities. One may ask: “What is the definition of fun?” Fun needs to be tempered with knowledge of what you’re doing and safety for oneself and others.

How do you explain that empathy and other abilities are not games to be “toyed” with? Can this perception be altered? Yes, it can be changed through respecting any and all abilities one has, how they work, and how we use them with others.

Empaths need to understand, to the best of their abilities, what effects empathic abilities have on themselves and others. We gather respect in seeking to understand, nurturing ourselves and sharing accordingly with others.

There are noticeable times during interactions in which it is required that empaths detach themselves. The ability to detach will prove invaluable and is especially important in professional careers where you are helping others. Being empathic can be consequential if you are not aware. You can become overly concerned with another's “issues” and find it almost impossible to walk away.

Sometimes, no matter how compassionate and genuinely caring you are, it is essential to detach. It is that person’s issue to deal with. Learning to use discretion will surely help. You cannot help all the people all the time. Unless they are willing to help themselves, you will end up being a “doormat” or simply someone to help “bail” them out of trouble when the need arises. Some people don't want help or aren't ready for it. That is their right.

Empaths should not concern themselves with another person’s issue, emotions or feelings unless they are approached or it is a matter of safety. Experience and awareness teaches one this. Otherwise, it can blow something trivial out of proportion and damage a relationship.

Experience helps develop tact and an ability to know when the “time is right” to say or do something. That experience also teaches you when to step back. Learning to walk away is something not to be considered as uncaring; at times, it is a selfless act of immense compassion for all concerned.

Adopting these principles will improve your personality, self-growth and heighten your perception. It will open your heart and mind to yourself and others and provide a better quality of life. Being responsible, having a degree of control, learning, and applying your knowledge in all moments are part of having ethics and morals.

The Ethics of Empathy
Author's Note
Copyright © 1998, 1999, 2000, 2001, 2002 Christel Broederlow
Please NOTE: Not all empaths fit the descriptions below as each person has unique strengths and weaknesses in certain areas, just as all people. Some of the examples given below may apply, while others may not. This is a general guide only.
Copyright © 1998, 1999, 2000, 2001, 2002 Christel Broederlow

The EMPATH REPORT 101 is the original and first port of call for all empaths. The above information was written as an overview of empathy. It is the introductory section of this website. Since the creation of this website, I have received hundreds of emails and the questions continually come. The need for more information and help became ever increasing and the demand for this website to be expanded upon beckoned.

The new section REPORTS now covers many edited (for privacy and respect) emails of my replies and many of my personal writings that I have compiled. They are here to meet that demand. The topics, all of which are directly related to empathy, are vast and far more detailed.

part II

Part II
The Empath Report 101
By Christel Broederlow
The following are only a few of the many possibilities that exist:

A friend is telling you of a situation with another friend, yet trying to make light of it. You just “know” it’s affecting them far more deeply and you make a subtle comment. You may even be quite descriptive. Your friend turns around and says, “How did you know that’s how I was really feeling?!” (Note this is a frequent, rather than one-time, occurrence.)

A young child is playing at the local park a few houses away. He falls over and cuts open his knee. His mother, at home, gets a “gut” feeling and drops what she's doing to go “check-in” on her youngster only to find her child crying his eyes out and cradling his injury.

A mother is in a much-needed, deep sleep and manages to squeeze in a couple of hours throughout the night. She awakes without obvious interruption to go “check-in” on her baby, who is stirring awake. (Again, this is a frequent, rather than a one-time. occurrence.)

A woman is feeling happy, relaxed, and has had a great day. Her partner comes home from work, grumbling the moment he walks in the door about how stressful the boss was and the pressure that was placed upon him. Within an instant, the woman is grumbling back.

A young man is talking with a girlfriend about something that is of concern and the girlfriend’s lack of interest starts to show in her becoming irritated with the conversation. In return, the young man picks up the irritation and shows it openly.

A parent senses that a teenager has had a rough patch with new boyfriend and is feeling down. The parent openly talks to her with obvious concern and understanding. In turn, the teen opens up and feels much better!

A child walks into a house and instantly feels a chill in the air, disharmony or as though something unpleasant has occurred at some point in time in the house.

The family is going to visit someone, and prior to arriving, the oldest son suddenly feels anxious for no apparent reason. Upon arriving at the destination, the family finds out that someone has just had a heated argument.

A young boy finds that he “knows” or senses bad news before it arrives. He has “felt” the illness, injury or death of a loved one. Some of these loved ones live thousands of miles away.

A woman is thinking of someone just as the telephone rings and guess who it is?

A father has a strong feeling of prevailing danger. Later that afternoon, his son is involved in an automobile accident.

A teen is particularly good at problem solving with mechanical devices, even though he doesn’t know precisely how they are made.

A teacher is particularly good at problem solving in many areas and has the ability to “look” deeper and find creative solutions.

A fisherman is “sensitive” to weather and knows when a storm comes. He gets a tingling sensation running through his chest that always precedes stormy weather.

A medical intuitive has the ability to sense illness/disease in others. She can “read” deeply and find cause of the illness or disease.

A woman walks by a stranger in a mall and feels an intense weight and feels like she is being lost in a fog. As soon as the person leaves, so too does the energetic vibration, weight and confusion.

A man awakes in the night and feels as if his recently departed wife is standing beside his bed.

A hiker has a strong sense of direction and a natural ability to navigate, in the car, walking etc. Even under the canopy of a dense forest, he is able to find his way.

Empathy is often mistaken for sympathy. Having empathy is not having sympathy for another. To sympathize is to feel for another’s situation. (For example, it involves a concern of sadness or helplessness in watching another suffer. You might hear, “I couldn’t help her and I felt so sad.”) The sympathizer often may not know what to say or confuses the situation more by unintentionally saying the wrong thing.

A sympathizer may have difficulty comforting another for one feels uncomfortable just thinking of it. They may not understand where the person is coming from, let alone going. It is a different form of understanding than empathy. In death, one often says, "I sympathize with you"," I am sad for you", or “I am sorry for your loss". (There is nothing wrong with this form of understanding.)

On the other hand, in flowing empathy an empath feels, to some degree, what the other is going through as though it were the empath's own true feelings. An empath may know what to say and do so comfortably with affection, compassion, warmth and understanding.

In true empathy, an empath will share the other's experience without judgment, bias or harsh, thoughtless words. It's as though they experienced the same situation and have walked in the other’s shoes. Many people believe they are empathic when, in actual fact, they are sympathetic and vice-versa.

"My empathy is so overwhelming.” This has to be one of the most frequently expressed sentences I hear from empaths. It is generally followed by, "How can I control my empathy?"

Yes, it most certainly feels overwhelming! If one is not aware of how to control it and/or has little understanding of what empathy is all about, he or she will struggle to maintain emotional balance in life. The less known, the more overwhelming the life of an empath “feels” because he/she cannot determine the origin of many of the emotions, illnesses or symptoms that he/she experiences.

It can affect relationships with a partner, family, friend or potential friends. The empath can get overloaded with other people’s emotions and even become seriously drained of his or her own personal energy. Learning to become aware of his or her “own” feelings as just that, belonging to and originating from one's self only will help tremendously. Otherwise, an empath can unknowingly take on board another's feelings/emotions.

This is most noticeable in situations where an empath can take on the “anger” or “stress” of others. Suddenly, without reason, he or she may become angry, have outbursts, or find him or herself retaliating. Essentially, the empath is sending the anger or stress back to its owner, although he or she will assume the anger or stress is his/her own. If an empath finds him or herself in this situation, he or she can expect to have taken on someone else's feeling.

This situation often leaves one feeling bewildered, if not confused as to how it started. It is no fun taking on board another’s feelings. A large part of learning about empathy is becoming aware what originates from one's self. When the empath learns about him or herself, he or she will learn that much more about others.

Although the following varies from empath to empath, a few examples of what empaths may experience are Chronic Fatigue, lack of energy, feeling exhausted in the company of certain people, experiencing extreme anxiety in crowds, in shopping malls and in public places, and/or feeling drained when arriving at the workplace. Again, these experiences are dependent upon how well the empath knows him or herself and how well the empath understands empathy.

Many a time an empath will feel (through empathy) and/or hear (through telepathy) the thoughts of another that are directed at the empath. These are words or feelings from another that aren't said out aloud. Rather, they have a “behind one’s back” kind of feeling and can be very difficult to deal with. The empath's thoughts will be along the lines of, "Why don't you just say it out aloud, and get it over and done with?” Unfortunately, those thoughts and feelings ARE the other person's, not the empath’s. Until (if ever) they express them openly, it is the empath's job to literally ignore them. As difficult as it may be, there is a privacy matter that comes into place here regardless if we like it or not or understand it or not. The ethics and morals involved in being empath are discussed in Part III of this Report.

To a degree, empathic interactions can be controlled. That degree depends upon one’s willingness to learn what empathy is continuously teaching us firsthand. Being aware of empathy is a great start. Detaching yourself when necessary is the next thing.

When you find yourself in a “heated” or stressful situation, STOP what you are doing and THINK quickly. Rewind the scene in your mind and go back to how you felt just prior to the situation getting out of hand. Were you calm, happy, relaxed? And then did you suddenly feel overwhelmed with anger, etc.? If so, empathy is calling for your attention! You may have just taken on board the other person’s feelings as though they were your own. For the unaware empath, this is an unconscious act and hence, the dire need to learn to be in awareness.

On the other hand, have you found yourself thinking about a situation throughout the day? You find yourself feeling irritated, insecure, angry, annoyed, upset, to the point that, when you finally had the chance to express yourself, you were “heated”. In this case, it was your emotion initially and not an empathic interaction.

When you STOP and THINK --analyze the emotion as not yours-- then KNOW it is not yours. Confirm this mentally: “Oh, it is not I that am angry.” or “These are not my feelings.” This mental act detaches one from the “mix-up” of emotions from all parties concerned. When you become aware of how to separate your emotions from others’, you will learn to remain calm in yourself, focused on the other, and able to allow the other to express him/herself without prejudice or critical judgment.

You are not detaching yourself from the other as though you are heartless. You are simply not taking on another person’s feelings in a literal manner, confusing them as your own, or expressing them as if they were.

In learning empathy awareness you are able to step back and allow your natural compassion to come through with no deep underlying effect on yourself. You are able to understand others in a nurturing way because you “know” and “feel” their emotions. This whole situation applies to all that come your way. It is without a doubt beneficial to you as the empath and helpful for any relationships you have with family and friends.

Sometimes not being detached from others, especially close loved ones, can appear quite the challenge. Another method of not picking up others so easily is a very simple method called FOCUSING. You intentionally focus on something else fully; immerse yourself in it--an object, tree, and/or picture--in order to distract your attention from what (or whom) appears to be “draining” you.

You can also listen to music, preferably without words, as certain lyrics can enhance your empathy and feeling of another and literally re-create what you're trying to distract yourself from. You can watch a lively “funny” movie/video, go for a walk, clear the air, clear yourself, sit beneath a tree, or read a book.

Focus away from the one that appears to “load” you up with his/her emotions. It is highly possible that he/she has no idea that they are projecting their emotions/thoughts so strongly. Nor do they know that you, as an empath, are receptive to that projection of emotion/thought. After all, the other person is most likely unaware that you are an empath and what empathy means.

NOTE: Just as empaths pick up the feelings of others, empaths also project their own feelings powerfully. We're not just talking about powerful words, but words that are packed with VERY strong emotions. Can you as an empath imagine what it would be like to be on the receiving end of an empath?

Sometimes it appears inevitable to be in situations where another person’s feelings can't be so easily pushed aside. Empaths can reach a point where the feelings flow through them rather than crash into them. They can learn that not all emotions are theirs and allow them to move on without need of analyzing. It is possible. It is possible to “go with the flow”.

Copyright © 1998, 1999, 2000, 2001, 2002, 2003 Christel Broederlow
Please NOTE: Not all empaths fit the descriptions below as each person has unique strengths and weaknesses in certain areas, just as all people. Some of the examples given below may apply, while others may not. This is a general guide only.

part I

WHAT IS EMPATHY?

Empathy is the ability to "read” and understand people and be in-tune with or resonate with others, voluntarily or involuntarily of one's empath capacity. Empathy often works alongside with telepathy, and this mutually enhances the strength of these abilities.

Empaths have the ability to scan another's psyche for thoughts and feelings or for past, present, and future life occurrences. Many empaths are unaware of how this actually works, and have long accepted that they were “sensitive” to others.

Empathy is a “feeling” of another’s true emotions to a point where an empath can relate to that person by sensing true feelings that run deeper than those portrayed on the surface. People commonly put on a “show” of expression. This is a learned trait of hiding authentic expression in an increasingly demanding society.

An empath can sense the truth behind the “cover” and will act compassionately to help that person express him/herself, thus making them feel at ease and not so desperately alone. It’s as though the empath truly understands, and, in many cases, they do through personal “firsthand” experience.

Empaths experience empathy towards family, children, friends, close associates, complete strangers, pets, plants and inanimate objects. Thus, an empath can feel the emotions of people and things at a distance. Some are empathic towards animals (the “Horse Whisperer”), to nature, to the planetary system, to mechanical devices or to buildings. Others will have a combination of the above.

Empaths are highly “sensitive”. This is the term commonly used in describing one's abilities (sensitivity) to another’s emotions and feelings. Empaths have a deep sense of “knowing” that accompanies empathy and are often compassionate, considerate, and understanding of others. Everyone has this natural ability; however, many never choose to utilize their ability and/or are completely unaware of their empathic ability.

There are also varying levels of strength in empaths which may be related to the individual’s awareness of self, understanding of the powers of empathy, and/or the acceptance or non-acceptance of empathy by those associated with them, including family and peers. Generally, those who are empathic grow up with these tendencies and do not learn about them until later in life.

Empathy is genetic, inherent in our DNA, and passed from generation to generation. It is studied both by traditional science and alternative healing practitioners.

Empathy has both biological/genetic and spiritual aspects. Many will claim that empathy and telepathy are strictly of a “spiritual nature”. This is an injustice; just as it is an injustice to focus only on the physical nature of empathy. For indeed, empathy has very physical, mental and spiritual implications and attributes.

It is not unusual for empaths to have experienced many things in their lives. Often many of their life experiences could be considered rather extreme, adventurous, or daring, allowing empaths to be open and receptive to much more. Whereas some people’s lives may be considered rather “soft or easy” and even enviable, that of an empath is often more than just challenging, with many a major roller coaster ride thrown in here and there!

Empaths often possess the ability to sense others on many different levels. From their position in observing what another is saying, feeling and thinking, they come to understand another. They can become very proficient at reading another person’s body language and/or study intently the eye movements. While this in itself is not empathy, it is a side-shoot that comes from being observant of others. In a sense, empaths have a complete communication package.

While there is much we don’t yet understand about how empathy works, we do have some information. Everything has an energetic vibration or frequency and an empath is able to sense these vibrations and recognize even the subtlest changes undetectable to the naked eye or the five senses.

Words of expression hold an energetic pattern that originates from the speaker. They have a specific meaning particular to the speaker. Behind that expression is a power better known as “energy”. For example, hate often brings about an intense feeling that immediately accompanies the word. The word “hate” becomes strengthened with the speaker’s feeling. It is that person’s feelings (energy) that are picked up by empaths, whether the words are spoken, thought or just felt without verbal or bodily expression.

WHO IS AN EMPATH?

Empaths are creative in many aspects.. Poets, writers, singers, and artists with a high degree of creativity and imagination. They are known for many talents as their interests are varied, broad and continual. They are mother, father, child, friend, nurse, caregiver, teacher, doctor, sales people... to psychic, clairvoyant, healer, etc. (That is not to say that any of these categories are all empaths.) The list is extensive and really unimportant. It is more important to notice that empaths are everywhere--in every culture and throughout the world.

One of the most obvious places for empathic connection is within the parent/child/family bonds. Mothers show recognizable signs of empathy in the early days of conception and this rapidly increases after birth. Children are often mirroring the feelings and thoughts of their parents and siblings because they are empathically “in tune” with them and exposed to them on a daily basis. It is wonderful for children to grow up with parents in awareness of empathy for the children are less likely to suppress their abilities and accept their natural talents.

Empaths are often very affectionate in personality and expression, great listeners and counselors (and not just in the professional area). They will find themselves helping others and often putting their own needs aside to do so. In the same breath, they can be much the opposite. They may be quiet, withdrawn from the outside world, loners, depressed, neurotic, life’s daydreamers, or even narcissistic.

They are most often passionate towards nature and respect its bountiful beauty. One will often find empaths enjoying the outdoors, beaches, walking, etc. Empaths may find themselves continually drawn to nature as a form of release. It is the opportune place to recapture their senses and gain a sense of peace in the hectic lives they may live. The time to get away from it all and unwind with nature becomes essential to the empath. Animals are often dear to the heart of empaths. It is not uncommon for empaths to have more than one pet in their homes. They can be veterinarians and animal caretakers.

Empaths make great friends for life, but are crushed if the friendship is abused. Over time, they will become far more selective. Though they may have a large circle of friends, they generally only have a few “close” ones.
TRAITS OF AN EMPATH

Empaths are often quiet achievers. They can take a while to handle a compliment for they're more inclined to point out another’s positive attributes. They are highly expressive in all areas of emotional connection, and talk openly, and, at times quite frankly. They may have few problems talking about their feelings if another cares to listen (regardless of how much they listen to others).

However, they can be the exact opposite: reclusive and apparently unresponsive at the best of times. They may even appear ignorant. Some are very good at “blocking out” others and that’s not always a bad thing, at least for the learning empath struggling with a barrage of emotions from others, as well as their own feelings.

Empaths have a tendency to openly feel what is outside of them more so than what is inside of them. This can cause empaths to ignore their own needs. In general an empath is non-violent, non-aggressive and leans more towards being the peacemaker. Any area filled with disharmony creates an uncomfortable feeling in an empath. If they find themselves in the middle of a confrontation, they will endeavor to settle the situation as quickly as possible, if not avoid it all together. If any harsh words are expressed in defending themselves, they will likely resent their lack of self-control, and have a preference to peacefully resolve the problem quickly.
Empaths are more inclined to pick up another’s feelings and project it back without realizing its origin in the first place. Talking things out is a major factor in releasing emotions in the learning empath. Empaths can develop an even stronger degree of understanding so that they can find peace in most situations. The downside is that empaths may bottle up emotions and build barriers sky-high so as to not let others know of their innermost thoughts and/or feelings. This withholding of emotional expression can be a direct result of a traumatic experience, an expressionless upbringing, or simply being told as a child, "Children are meant to be seen and not heard!"

Without a doubt, this emotional withholding can be detrimental to one’s health, for the longer one’s thoughts and/or emotions aren't released, the more power they build. The thoughts and/or emotions can eventually becoming explosive, if not crippling. The need to express oneself honestly is a form of healing and a choice open to all. To not do so can result in a breakdown of the person and result in mental/emotional instability or the creation of a physical ailment, illness or disease.

Empaths are sensitive to TV, videos, movies, news and broadcasts. Violence or emotional dramas depicting shocking scenes of physical or emotional pain inflicted on adults, children or animals can bring an empath easily to tears. At times, they may feel physically ill or choke back the tears. Some empaths will struggle to comprehend any such cruelty, and mayl have grave difficulty in expressing themselves in the face of another’s ignorance, closed-mindedness and obvious lack of compassion. They simply cannot justify the suffering they feel and see.

You will find empaths working with people, animals or nature with a true passion and dedication to help them. They are often tireless teachers and/or caretakers for our environment and all within it. Many volunteers are empathic and give up personal time to help others without pay and/or recognition.

Empaths may be excellent storytellers due to an endless imagination, inquisitive minds and ever-expanding knowledge. They can be old romantics at heart and very gentle. They may also be the “keepers” of ancestral knowledge and family history. If not the obvious family historians, they may be the ones who listen to the stories passed down and possess the majority of the family history. Not surprisingly, they may have started or possess a family tree.

They have a broad interest in music to suit their many expressive temperaments, and others can query how empaths can listen to one style of music, and within minutes, change to something entirely different. Lyrics within a song can have adverse, powerful effects on empaths, especially if it is relevant to a recent experience. In these moments, it is advisable for empaths to listen to music without lyrics, to avoid playing havoc with their emotions!

They are just as expressive with body language as with words, thoughts, and feelings. Their creativity is often expressed through dance, acting, and bodily movements. Empaths can project an incredible amount of energy portraying and/or releasing emotion. Empaths can become lost in the music, to the point of being in a trance-like state; they become one with the music through the expression of their physical bodies. They describe this feeling as a time when all else around them is almost non-existent.

People of all walks of life and animals are attracted to the warmth and genuine compassion of empaths. Regardless of whether others are aware of one being empathic, people are drawn to them as a metal object is to a magnet!

Even complete strangers find it easy to talk to empaths about the most personal things, and before they know it, they have poured out their hearts and souls without intending to do so consciously. It is as though on a sub-conscious level that person knows instinctively that empaths would listen with compassionate understanding. Then again, for empaths, it is always nice to actually be heard themselves!

Here are the listeners of life. They can be outgoing, bubbly, enthusiastic and a joy to be in the presence of, as well as highly humorous at the most unusual moments! On the flip side, empaths can be weighted with mood swings that will have others around them want to jump overboard and abandon ship! The thoughts and feelings empaths receive from any and all in their life can be so overwhelming (if not understood) that their moods can fluctuate with lightning speed. One moment they may be delightfully happy and with a flick of the switch, miserable.

Abandoning an empath in the throes of alternating moods can create detrimental effects. A simple return of empathic love--listening and caring compassionately without bias, judgment and/or condemnation--can go an incredibly long way to an empath's instant recovery. Many empaths don't understand what is occurring within them. They literally have no idea that another person’s emotions are now felt, as one’s own and reflected outwardly. They are confused as to how one moment all was well, and then the next, they feel so depressed, alone, etc. The need to understand the possibilities of empath connection is a vital part of the empaths journey for themselves and for those around them.

Empaths are often problem solvers, thinkers, and studiers of many things. As far as empaths are concerned, where a problem is, so too is the answer. They often will search until they find one--if only for peace of mind. This can certainly prove beneficial for others in their relationships, in the workplace, or on the home front. Where there is a will, there is a way and the empath will find it. The empath can literally (likely without the knowledge of what’s actually occurring) tap into Universal Knowledge and be receptive to guidance in solving anything they put their head and hearts into.

Empaths often are vivid and/or lucid dreamers. They can dream in detail and are inquisitive of dream content. Often they feel as though the dreams are linked to their physical life somehow, and not just a mumble of nonsensical, irrelevant, meaningless images. This curiosity will lead many empathic dreamers to unravel some of the “mysterious” dream contents from an early age and connect the interpretation to its relevance in their physical life. If not, they may be led to dream interpretations through other means.

Empaths are daydreamers with difficulty keeping focused on the mundane. If life isn't stimulating, off an empath will go into a detached state of mind. They will go somewhere, anywhere, in a thought that appears detached from the physical reality, yet is alive and active for they really are off and away. If a tutor is lecturing with little to no emotional input, empaths will not be receptive to such teaching and can (unintentionally) drift into a state of daydreaming.

Give the empath student the tutor who speaks with stimuli and emotion (through actual experience of any given subject) and the empath is receptively alert. Empaths are a captivated audience. This same principle applies in acting. An actor will either captivate the audience through expressing (in all aspects) emotions (as though they really did experience the role they are portraying) or will loose them entirely. Empaths make outstanding actors.

Empaths frequently experience déjà vu and synchronicities. What may initially start as, "Oh, what a coincidence", will lead to the understanding of synchronicities as an aspect of who they are. These synchronicities will become a welcomed and continually expanding occurrence. As an understanding of self grows, the synchronicities become more fluent and free flowing. The synchronicities can promote a feeling of euphoria as empaths identify with them and appreciate the connection to their empathic nature.

Empaths are most likely to have had varying paranormal experiences throughout their lives. NDE's (Near death experiences) and or OBE's (Out of body experiences) can catapult an unaware empath into the awakening period and provide the momentum for a journey of discovery. Those who get caught up in life, in society’s often dictating ways, in work etc., can become lost in a mechanical way of living that provides very little meaning. All “signs of guidance” are ignored to shift out of this state of “doing”. A path to being whole again becomes evident and a search for more meaning in one’s life begins.

These types of experiences appear dramatic, can be life-altering indeed, and are most assuredly just as intensely memorable in years to come. They are the voice of guidance encouraging us to pursue our journey in awareness. Sometimes, some of us require that extra assistance!

For some empaths, the lack of outside understanding towards paranormal events they experience, may lead to suppressing such abilities. (Most of these abilities are very natural and not a coincidence.) Empaths may unknowingly adopt the positive or negative attitude of others as their own. (This, however, can be overcome.) Empaths may need to follow interests in the paranormal and the unexplained with curiosity so as to explain and accept their life circumstances.

Copyright © 1998, 1999, 2000, 2001, 2002,2003 Christel Broederlow
Edited Annie Bush M.A. 2002

Please NOTE: Not all empaths fit the descriptions below as each person has unique strengths and weaknesses in certain areas, just as all people. Some of the examples given below may apply, while others may not.
This is a general guide only.

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The Universal Empath website was created to educate empaths and the public about empathy and to serve as a resource for all interested. This website is “universal” in that it encourages and respects all beliefs, understandings and knowledge about empaths and empathy. It serves as a hub of information to help promote understanding and appreciation with a broad perspective.
Let us start by defining empathy...

Empathy: n. 1. The ability to sense and/or understand emotion(s) from another person, animal, inanimate objects incorporating stimulation to any and or all of the senses (including the 6th Sense) without verbally being told and/or without obvious visual clues. 2. The ability to be sensitive and receptive to outside emotional stimuli. - adj. empathic or empathetic., v. to empathize

Empath: n. 1. A person who has the ability to experience empathy towards another person, and/or animate/inanimate objects, in part or from all of the above definition. 2. A person who is sensitive to the emotions in others.

Copyright © 2002 Christel Broederlow

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